A Submissive's Bill of Rights

1 - You have the right to be treated with respect. Not only do you have this right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make you a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word "submissive" describes your nature and in no way diminishes you as a human being. You have the right to respect yourself as well.

2 - You have the right to be proud of what you are. Being a submissive is nothing that should ever bring you shame or feelings of reproach. Your submissive nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride and happiness..(Click here for more)

Guidelines for a Submissive Slave

Guidelines for a Slave are made available to you by Mistress as an evidence of Mistress's interest in developing a Mistress/slave relationship with you. Making these guidelines available to you does not constitute any commitment on Mistress's part to accepting you as a slave. Mistress believes that the foundation of the successful Mistress/slave relationship is trust, and that to perfect the trust that binds a slave to a Mistress requires effort, time and continuous testing.

Therefore, it is not possible to establish a set of rules for a slave. No true Mistress has the time, energy or need to dictate to a slave every movement, action, posture, speech habit, position, etc. that a slave should perform in the Mistress's service. Guidelines for a Slave informs you of the parameters that will apply to you in your position as Mistress's slave.(Click here for more)

Vinylla Fetish Club Review

Recently I attended Vinylla, a fetish club that operates out of the Hanbury Ballroom in Brighton (UPDATE - Since this review was written the venue has changed - see their website) on the first thursday of every month. After a chat with the organiser by phone regarding camera policy I jumped in the car and headed on down. After managing to park very close to the venue, I headed in.

After a quick chat with the lady in charge on the door, I went inside to check out the place. It's an interesting venue, with a great high domed ceiling (think St Pauls!), a long bar at the back. The cloakroom was run by a nice chap dressed as a swan(!), so after depositing my jacket I... shivered! Unfortunately the heating had decided to play up on this particular night, so we had a rather chilly bunch of kinky people sitting around (candles on the tables helped!) (Click here for more)

The Animal House by Cat Scarlett

'Hurt me then, make me scream' Violetta hissed at the surrounding men. Stag's voice was angry and inflexible. 'That's no way to ask your masters for pleasure. You must be punished for your insolence.'

When Violetta receives an invitation to stay at a dream French chateau she finds herself drawn into a community whose members take their pleasures disguised beneath animal masks. Behind the licentiousness of her holiday destination, however, she finds a dark tradition of Gallic libertinage and Medieval torture she had not imagined, as the Sadean trappings of the Chateau are revealed and used upon her in turn. (Click here for more)

BDSM Mishaps

Some accidents do happen...

Sometimes mishaps do occur during a scene. But while there are many very scary stories around, in truth, almost none of those ever happened. Most are just tall tales - a new kind of urban legend. However, there are a few relatively common occurrences that it's good to be aware of.

The following are some of the things that may actually happen - plus what you do about it. Please note that some of the symptoms described here may be indications of other physical or mental problems, such as possible illnesses, pregnancy, hidden fears, etc. If the symptoms appear more often, do consult your doctor. (Click here for more)

Levels of Dominance

In the D/s lifestyle you will find there are as many definitions for "Dominant" and "Master" as there are people to talk with. When a Dominant says "I want to be your Master", the words may have a different meaning to the one hearing them than to the one who uttered them.

At one end there is the person who only means I want to tie you up, whip you, have scenes and sex with you, when they say they want to be your Master. At the other end of the spectrum there are people who mean they want to become your full-time Master, your protector, your teacher. They only feel fulfilled when they can own your heart and soul. Between the two definitions you will find many gray shaded areas completing the meaning of Dominant / Master. (Click here for more)

What is Erotic Power Exchange?

Erotic power exchange is any situation where partners, of their own free will and choice, actively and willfully incorporate the power element in their lovemaking (and usually for a great deal in their relationship).

Erotic power exchange is best known as either BDSM, S&M, D/s or sadomasochism, but these terms are all too limited, incorrect and all too frequently confused with stereotypes and forms of mental illness, which is why we like to call it Erotic Power Exchange (EPE). (Click here for more)

Sensuous Spanking

Spanking is much more personal and intimate than other forms of discipline. There is nothing quite like the feel of your slave bent over your knee, bare ass arched upwards, quivering with a combination of fear and anticipation. For the bottom, too, it provides a very unique feeling - both physically and mentally.

One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of discipline is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are haphazard, I prefer spankings that include the ritual of positioning. Both the spankee and spanker adopt positions that facilitate and enhance the spanking. These positions generally work to the advantage of the spanker and the disadvantage of he spankee. The spanker enjoys the following advantages from their position: (Click here for more)