Fetish Fashion - Girdle your loins!

From Aphrodisia UK

What's happened to the old-fashioned, breath-holding, stomach-flattening, thigh-shaping girdle? With the 50s look enjoying a new lease of life, wearing the right underwear to achieve that svelte movie star silhouette is all-important. Although girdles are unlikely to make a full-blown comeback, their influence is still evident today.

Trying to emulate the glamour and elegance of the 1950s today is no easy feat. So, how did the likes of Grace Kelly, Jane Russell and Lauren Bacall manage to look so effortlessly sleek all the time? Easy - the good, old-fashioned, breath-holding, stomach-flattening, thigh-shaping girdle.

Once considered an essential part of any woman's wardrobe, the girdle formed the blueprint for an abundance of foundation garments during the 1900s. And, with the development of new technologies, the demand for the girdle-inspired undergarment has never waned. Fortunately for today's woman, the tummy-hugging, thigh-reducing, waist-cinching alternatives are much more appealing. (Click here for more)

BDSM Opinion - Some thoughts on Safewords

By Franklin Veaux

Good evening, and welcome to the part of our show where we skewer some sacred cows! Many people will tell you that using a "safeword" in the context of BDSM is a good idea. In fact, I'm one of them.

A safeword is simply some word which you can use as a code word to tell your partner to stop if something you're exploring becomes too intense or crosses a boundary--perhaps even a boundary you didn't know you have. (Click here for more)

Professional Mistress - More Pain, More Gain

From The Observer

When Jane Fairfax lost her job as a successful journalist, she found she had another skill... as a dominatrix. Here, she reveals what it feels like to whip, torture and humiliate total strangers for money.

Being a dominatrix is much like being a journalist.
In both professions, you have to be a good listener. You have to get people's names right. Journalists are supposed to tell the truth. A dominatrix tells the story her client would like to hear. (Click here for more)

BDSM Scenarios & Sexual Exploration Ideas

By Franklin Veaux

Okay, okay, so, what do you actually DO, anyway? Ah, now that's the fun part! There are as many ways to "do" BDSM stuff as there are people...so really, what you can do is almost limitless. These are just a few ideas to bring into your sex life.

This article is divided into categories, with ideas ranging from mild to very kinky. The categories: Toys / Techniques / Role-Playing Scenarios. Before we get to the good stuff, though, a few safety tips are in order. Talk about what's going on with your partner. You don't necessarily have to tell him or her exactly what you're planning; in fact, sometimes surprises are fun. But you don't want to do anything your partner hates, either. This isn't just for one person's benefit.(Click here for more)

BDSM Safety - The Medical Realities of Breath Control Play

By Jay Wiseman, Greenery Press

Hi folks, As many of you know, the subject of breath control play pops up here from time to time, and I often participate in the resultant threads. I notice that I repeatedly tend to post the same basic information about the physiology of what's involved, and such "re-inventing the wheel" is unnecessary.

I have therefore been working on a basic "position paper" of what's involved for some time, and here it is. Assuming that it's factually accurate (and I cordially invite _informed_ challenge on this point), this will become my "boilerplate" statement on the matter.. (Click here for more)

BDSM Opinion - BDSM, Folks I can do without

By Franklin Veaux

CAUTION : This is a rant. It's based on my own personal experiences in the BDSM community. Some people may not like the characterizations in here. You've been warned.

I've been involved in both BDSM and polyamory since long before I had words to describe eaither (and, for that matter, since before the word "polyamory" even existed). I've been part of the organized poly community for quite a number of years, but generally speaking, I've tended to avoid the organized BDSM community.

Lately, I've been spending a lot more time in the BDSM community, and I'm beginning to remember why it is I've avoided it.. (Click here for more)

BDSM Lifestyle - A couple in love, Top to Bottom

By John Koopman, SFGate.com

In a small apartment in Oakland, a man and woman prepare for a night out. She's in the bathroom, putting on makeup. He's in the living room, checking the contents of his bag: floggers, rope, tape, clamps, knife.

They walk out of the building, he in leather pants and black tank top, she in miniskirt, calf-high stiletto boots and see-through top. They're on their way to the city to play. But first, they have to drop off a movie rental at the video store.

They live together. He's an artist; she works in sales. Life, most of the time, is quite mundane.

Except for the nights they go out to play. Then, he ties her up, whips her and otherwise inflicts pain on her. And she loves it. (Click here for more)

Wooden clothespins are available in several qualities, with the older, thicker ones being a bit better IMHO, and the thin ones more likely to splinter or have sharp edges. As one may purchase 50 of these for perhaps $4 American, these rank among least expensive of toys, and among the most versatile. Almost anything one may do with fingertip squeezing may be done with clothespins, and several things that cannot be accomplished with one's fingers may easily be done with these tiny household beauties. Of course, this does leave your hands free for other activities.... (Click here for more)

Sand the end of the cane into a round, and sand the shaft where the "bumps" are. Varnish the cane. It should be varnished several times using a marine varnish. Wrap the handle end with tape, and then leather. Using double sided tape will help the leather stick in place. This is where your artistic ability comes in to play.(Click here for more)

On smooth leather I use Saddle soap for general cleaning. First I wipe the leather down with a damp cloth. Removing all loose surface dirt. Then I use a shaving brush to work up a lather (I prefer the solid saddle soap over the liquid). I swirl this into the leather, then while it is still damp, I wipe it off. Repeat, only this time let it dry all the way. Later brush it off with a shoe brush. This is good cleaning and conditioning for most smooth leathers. (Click here for more)